Beating the Baby Blog Blues

While the mechanics of blogging are amazingly easy to master, creating a successful blog is actually much HARDER than it looks.

Yesterday, my email box was filled with people who are suffering from what I call the “Baby Blog Blues”.

These bloggers are not web development professionals, but they’re average every day business owners who want to use their blog to promote themselves and their businesses.   They’ve been blogging (some regularly, some not so regularly) and they’re frustrated.  In some cases, they’re getting traffic but no comments.  In other cases, they’re not getting traffic OR comments.

In one case, the blogger who wrote to me desperately wants to build a strong community, just as Cath Lawson, Liz Strauss, Barbara Swafford, and Hunter Nutall have done.    She wants loyal readers who contribute regularly to the discussion.  She wants to give a topic and allow others to discuss – which is exactly what happens in the strong communities above.

At the moment, her blog just isn’t “established” enough to achieve this and I’m calling this syndrome the Baby Blog Blues.

I’ve come up with this “word picture” because I can’t TELL you how often I’ve had potential clients who announce, “This blog  HAS to be generating a four figure income in less than 6 months or I don’t want to do it.”    After 10 years, I’ve FINALLY learned to say “Thanks for contacting me – good luck with that.”

When you first launch your blog, it is like a baby.  Few parents expect their newborn infant to generate income to cover their expenses.  (I had to re-write that sentence to say “few” instead of “no” because – well, the tabloids are FILLED with stories of parents who had children with the sole intent of turning the baby into a cash machine – the last names Lohan and Spears come quickly to mind!)

In the beginning, your blog is a baby! It needs time and effort invested on your part to make it grow. In the case of a human baby, time will work its magic and your child will grow even without top quality nurturing.  The passage of time guarantees that your newborn will grow into a toddler.  Allow more time to pass and the toddler will grow into a child.  Eventually, in the cruelest twist of all, the child will grow into a teenager.  While time is the biggest factor in a child’s development, time is not the sole predictor of blogging success.

In the case of my aspiring blog client, she’s got an infant “blog” sitting on her lap and she’s watching Cath, Liz, Barbara and Hunter with envy as they prepare for their blogs for the senior prom.

What this client doesn’t recognize is that these successful bloggers spent a lot of time creating blog success.  They have spent their time blogging in the dark.  They have spent weeks, months perhaps YEARS posting article after article with few if any comments.  Most bloggers learn to blog through trial and error.  The faster you learn the essential “tricks” of the trade, the quicker you can get moving in the direction of blog success.

Trust me when I tell you that all of the bloggers I listed above did a LOT more than just post to their blog once a week and wait for the traffic to come to them. Like the mother of a newborn human infant, these successful bloggers have gone through the 4 hour feeding schedules and diapers phase with their blogs.

While the passage of time will eventually transform a human infant into a teenager, the same doesn’t hold true for your blog.  If you don’t nurture your blog, it won’t grow – it’s as simple as that.  The GOOD news is that you can ignore your blog for months and then when you begin nurturing it again it will spring back to life.  In other words, no matter how sick your blog is now, you can always resurrect it.

By the way, the client with “blog envy” purchased the 8 Week Power Blog Launch program 2 weeks ago.  Over those two weeks, her Alexa ranking has already decreased almost 800,000.  (Alexa is a highly flawed system which ranks web sites from 1- 24 Million where  #1 is the best, 24 Million is the worst so a rapidly FALLING Alexa rank is a GOOD thing!)  In the course of 2 weeks, her blog went from the 2.4 Million range to the 1.6Million range and has passed more than 3/4 of a MILLION other websites in the race to number one.

She’s definitely on her way to achieving blog success – I just have to keep her focused on the fact that it takes TIME to create a successful blog.

Blog success is not an overnight proposition.  It takes TIME and it takes EFFORT – just like parenting, except when your blog achieves “teenager” status you CAN put it to work generating income – unlike human teenagers!


  1. Hi Kathy. This was a brilliant post! Psssst… there’s a tiny typo (blemish) on this baby… in the 4th last paragraph huaman is spelled rather awkwardly.

    I’ve been rocking a new blog baby since June and have enjoyed every step. I could spend all day doing this! My challenge now is that I’ve realized that with no job, no money coming in and trying to build a life coaching business, that blogging is feeding me in every way but $$$.

    I want to build my business and life to support what I love to do writing and coaching, whether it is through online reflection or in person. So, because I’m rambling I am going to finish up here by saying I CAN’T WAIT TO GET TO THIS BOOK OF YOURS! Let’s add an 8th day to the week shall we? -)

    Davinas last blog post..Creative Luny Landing In The Sand

  2. Hi Kathy – what you say is so true – time is everything. I blogged for a long time and nobody seemed to be listening. Then I read that the same thing had happened to Darren Rowse and that gave me the inspiration to keep going.

    It’s great that your client’s Alexa rank is dropping – that means the course must be working for her. She just has to keep going. I blog everyday and sometimes twice a day. And folk who blog maybe once or twice a week complain to me about not getting enough visitors.

    But the thing is, I’m probably working on my blog, or marketing it, while they’re shopping, watching the TV, or going out. There has to be some sacrifice and hard work.

  3. @Davina,

    THANKS for the heads up! Running that through spell check caught a couple of other errors as well!

    Not running spell check on my content is the moral equivalent of allowing MY baby to sit in a dirty diaper!

    @ Cath,

    You and I are truly cut from the same cloth. The biggest reason I created a day by day 8 week course is to get my clients in the HABIT of blogging!!! I swear, some people think that you launch your blog on Tuesday and start cashing checks the following Thursday!

    I personally blame the internet marketing crowd for infecting our thinking with such tripe!

  4. Kathy, I love this post! Getting my blog ready for the senior prom seems about right. But then we still have a ways to go until we’re retired. I feel bad for the people who say they need to be making money now. I understand the feeling, but unfortunately, there’s not a quick solution. Their blog just needs time to grow up.

  5. @ Hunter,

    Unfortunately, there isn’t a “fast, easy, free” way to reap the results it’s taken you MONTHS if not YEARS to achieve. No matter WHAT the MMO bloggers may say!

    I have to laugh – RETIREMENT? Um, there’s a huge mountain range between the senior prom and retirement known as COLLEGE! GRIN! Retirement seems a LONG ways away!!!

  6. There’s no skipping steps in launching a successful blog or social media campaign. Like any exercise regiment, it takes hard work, consistency and the ability to be yourself (and be true to yourself; setting measurable goals and holding yourself accountable). But if you stick to it, you will find success.

    Ricardo Buenos last blog post..Don’t Be THAT Guy!

  7. Great reading about yours and others experiences. I am brand new to this and really want to get going and eventually helping others. Thanks for sharing experiences.